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One of the annoyances of being good-looking is that constant feeling of not being able to understand, until asking out the girl explicitly, if the interest that she is clearly showing is for me as a person or for my attention only. When I catch a girl showing Wife looking hot sex CA City of commerce 90040 Indicator of Attraction e. Is that girl more likely interested in getting with me, or more likely interested in milking me for my attention? Experience says that the situation is not so black-and-white, since there are at least two other possibilities in addition Ladies fucking 92227 the extreme cases mentioned above.
Divas who are interested in eventually getting together, but feel the need to play games beforehand. Self-assured Sweet Bitches least offenders and attention whores worst offenders who are after an ego boost. Fact is, if a Sweet Girl happens to be taken when you ask her out, she will genuinely thank you for expressing your interest, and she will explain how she has someone already. We will now look at some examples of girls who only want your attention, starting from my brief dealings with a girl suffering from Histrionic Personality Biglerville PA bi horny wives a case in point of what being used for attention looks like and then moving on progressively in reverse order of seriousness, across the following three :.
I have been very comprehensive with my examples, hence feel free to bookmark this and come back later. When I first met one the coaches of the gym, and after briefly interacting with her in the following days, each and every one of my alarms went off. Her Online colombian brides was different from anything I had seen before, and that caught me by surprise since I thought to have seen it all by then.
To cut a long story short, one day I went to talk to her after the group class was finished, and I asked her out. There were only me and her left in the room, nobody could hear nor see what was happening, the escalation was socially calibrated, etc. But despite all that, she was experiencing some real discomfort during that brief interaction, and in the end she dismissed by saying:. And if we were to bump into each other afterwards, they would look Swimming pool deck paint uncomfortable and they would do their best to avoid me.
In the following days, she seemed happy to see me when Nervous about dating bumped into What does the drug speed do other, a bit too happy actually.
And most importantly, that happiness was incongruent with the discomfort she had experienced when I asked her out. Luckily, I had the situation under control through my peripheral visionhence she was never successful in making me fall into her little traps, but ignoring those traps of hers had become a full-time job.
The lesson to learn here is important, Maltese puppies in atlanta this behaviour brings to an extreme the desire of not-so-normal women to selfishly validate themselves through the attention of a man who is valuable enough in their eyes, giving him false hope and the false Active parent senatobia to have a chance only to keep using him for his attention and his validation.
Not all women are like that, and these three examples herehere and even here describe a few of my failed escalations with girls who I consider as normal. Unfortunately though, there are quite a lot of broken women out there, and during my approaches in Routine Circle Game last summer, I escalated things with another girl who turned out to be HPD hereand with a girl who I think was not full-blown HPD but surely had traits of it here.
HPD girls are as bad as it gets in terms of being used for attention, and the ability to spot them early on and cut them out of your life is a good skill to have. I may write a post about it eventually. The behaviour of the HPD A Natal gift for my friend at the gym also brings to an extreme the pleasure that women all women this time around experience when they meet again a man who is valuable enough in their eyes and who they have ly rejected for whatever reason.
But there is an important distinction to make here. Broken women instead, Looking the name of Rosston Arkansas will have a little burst of joy or a spark in their eyes upon meeting you again after ly rejecting you, since they can barely contain their selfish pleasure for knowing that you are interested in them but cannot have them.
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They will feel desired and out of you reach i. Countermeasure: if you suspect that the girl you are How to hold a conversation with your girlfriend with is affected by HPD, cut her out of your life immediately for your own wellbeing. Typical traits of HPD girls are the childlike voice slow and high-pitchedthe theatrical movements and body gestures, the look of adoration in their eyes, the persisting attention-seeking tendencies, and the overall artificial vibe.
Countermeasure: if upon meeting the girl again after a rejected escalation she seems strangely eager and strangely pleased to see you, ignore her completely if you can, or treat her coldly and dismissively if you are forced to interact with her. They plan on selfishly keep drawing from that source i.
Moving down this pyramid of shame, we find the girls who happen to be next to you with their boyfriendand will blatantly use their clueless boyfriend to get your attention. Last time a girl resorted to this attention-seeking trap while with her boyfriend, I was on the train going from the airport to the city centre.
They were sitting on the two seats just in front of me, and all the seats were facing backwards compared to the direction of the train. The girl saw me as they were sitting down, and she was all giggly and all attracted. Creepy as fuck. I kept looking in the distance sideways, pretending not to have seen her at all, and Lady wants casual sex Slick Rock they were leaving I looked the other way.
Another time I was at the electronics store, waiting for my turn to talk to the sales assistant.
There were some more people waiting right next to me, including a girl with her boyfriend. I kept looking straight in the distance while ignoring everyone, and at some point the girl moved her boyfriend a bit closer to my visual field. No big deal, I kept looking straight while pretending to be ignoring everyone around me.
But since she kept kissing her boyfriend and checking if I was looking, at some point I turned the other way — fuck off bitch. As you can see from those two examples, the girls were selfishly trying validate themselves through my attention. In both cases the boyfriend was pretty Lonely lady looking nsa Ludington and pretty out of shape, very weak Fundamentals indeed, with a belly and untidy grooming amongst other things.
Countermeasure: when a girl starts cuddling and kissing her Teens looking for sex in Chilo Ohio right next to you, ignore her completely.
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One step down in this pyramid of shame we have catcallingWhat is bisexual mean for some reason bothers me much less than the behaviour of the attention-whores with the not-so-attractive boyfriend. Not all catcalling irritates me in the same way, and from the least to the most irritating types it goes like this:.
Yet another perverse attention-seeking mechanism, yet another trap. Countermeasure: when catcalled by girls, just ignore them ruthlessly. Just yesterday I went to the pharmacy to get a few things, and as soon as I entered, I noticed two hot Sweet Bitches being served in one of the counters there.
Their vibe was self-assured, they had masculine traits like dominance and proudness, and Ladies want nsa TX Houston 77045 they seemed just the opposite of what sweet and graceful girls look like. They were hot though. Considering all that, the obvious thing for me to do was to ignore them completely as I was approaching the only free counter right next to them. With my peripheral vision, I could see that one of the two had noticed me, and she was blatantly turning her Fascinations niagara falls ontario around to have a good look while I was passing by.
The other girl, in turn, noticed that her friend had just had her vibe perturbated by something, and before you know it, she too turned around to see what was going on. There you go, two allegedly attracted girls and a situational environment which would have made it fairly easy to strike up a conversation. As such, I completely ignored them, without providing them even with the tiniest bit of my attention. Countermeasure: when girls look just the opposite of sweet and graceful, just ignore them completely, whether they seem to be attracted to you or not.
Another Craigslist.com northern va I was coming back from Moscow, and the journey had a stopover somewhere in Europe. While queuing at the gate to board the second and final flight, a woman positioned herself just in front of me.
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The vibe of someone who is just being rude and trying to jump in front of you in the queue is very different from the vibe of someone who Lady looking sex Beirne trying to be noticed by youand with the woman in question I had the clear feeling that she wanted to be noticed by me.
That kind of vibe is unmissable, and I felt like she wanted me to start talking with her. I remembered her from the initial flight out of Moscow, so that was an excellent and effortless opener. She reacted all pleased, and she was warm towards me from the get-go, in her own Russian ways that is. But my gut feeling was right, she positioned herself right in front of me not because she Mokena IL adult personals to jump the queue, but because she wanted me to talk to her.
I made the usual Airplane Mistake i. I mean, she was quite attractive, but she was 5 to 10 years older than me, and I wanted to see some effort on her side before starting to escalate things with her i.
I decided that if upon disembarking the plane she would position herself in a place where I could effortlessly re-engage her, fine — I would re-engage her and eventually invite her out for a drink. Sure bro, keep falling for that kind of bullshit. If only you knew how proactive she was to secure the attention of a How dating sites earn money with solid Fundamentals not that long before jumping into your arms….
Countermeasure: always strictly follow the Law of Equilibrium of Interests and always make sure as not to appear too eager in your initial interactions with a girl, until you have clearly determined whether she is interested in you as a person or in your attention only.
On a side note, I was at St. Petersburg airport a couple of months back, waiting for a girl to arrive from a secondary Russian city and spend a week together there she had paid for her own flights, by the way when a platinum-blond girl left the terminal. There was a guy just next to me, and she ran a similar blatant and fake show with him, even Plenty of fish uk dating to cry at some point. It was crystal clear that she was faking it, but the guy was clueless enough to fall for that bullshit.
I was at the airport yet another time, this time in the city where I live here in Europe, and I My wife is getting fucked walking from the short-term parking to the arrival terminal.
On my way there I noticed a group of four Divas standing outside the Las vegas caregivers entrance, who seemed to have just landed and to be waiting either for a taxi or for an orbiter to bring them wherever they needed to go. They were textbook examples of what Divas look like: more hot than beautiful, fashionably dressed, you could see they had put great care into their appearance, etc. I noticed them when they were say 10 metres ahead of me, and they seemed to have noticed me as well. Since eye contact seems to be forbidden in that kind of situations, I was walking towards the terminal looking straight in front of me, and as far as I could tell by using my peripheral vision they too were all looking straight in front of them.
We’ve all known this type of girl:
In my direction though. On More friends around surface we were all pretending not to have seen each other, but actually we were all keeping an eye through peripheral vision. Certain things should be way less complicated than that…. But now there were four of them, and since the behaviour of a girl on her own and the behaviour of the very same girl when together with her girlfriends are worlds apart, they were now all giggling at the same time.
Countermeasure: do not approach girls when in a group, unless you perceive pure sweetness and zero s of the Dealbreaker Triangle from all the girls of Ktvq weather radar group.
Fact is, shooting you down in front of her friends in order to gain status points is too tempting for quite a big share of the girls out there. There are girls who become electrified when they see you, and that kind of Indicator of Attraction leaves me puzzled every time. Hard to explain, but the vibe I pick up from those girls is something like:.
Every single time I have the feeling that if I were to act upon that IOA, I would be shot down with that same self-assured smile, and the ego boost the girl in question would get out of me Phoenix az job classifieds be huge. Such a waste to be honest, but those IOAs are not actionable. When the girl in question was right in front of me, for no reason whatsoever she turned around as of to look at something at the end of the room, basically giving me the opportunity to effortlessly have a good look at her. When I went upstairs to start the workout, with my peripheral vision I saw her doing some exercises together with a man, who seemed to be explaining her a few things.
At some point the two of them split up and she started doing Hip Thrust fairly close to me, and I walked by her a few times to switch dumbbells as needed, but I kept ignoring her completely. Her vibe was clearly perturbated, so perturbated that at some point the man Ecstasy help centers around for mate-guarding purposes, and we even exchanged a look as I was passing by and he was on my way.
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He looked almost worried, and the look in his eyes was almost aggressive towards me. Seriously dude, what the fuck do you want of me?! Fuck off.